Devilish Approaching
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Outline
- The author (Ruan Qi, founder of Beijing's "Devil Approach Class") discusses the sociological meaning of approaching: breaking through the social barriers around meeting strangers
- Argues that approaching is a matter of etiquette — state your intent plainly as "I'd like to get to know you" while respecting the other person's space
- Critiques popular online pickup theory, including a point-by-point rebuttal of Western PUA-style claims
- Explores "understanding women" versus "the unknowability of women," stressing that one should stop attributing outcomes to any single line
- Interspersed commentary on case studies from approach-class students
Core idea
The core of approaching is courage and candor, not a brilliant opener — better to increase the number of attempts than to obsess over scripts; politeness and respect toward strangers are the precondition for approaching to be legitimate at all.
Review
Relatively healthy in stance among domestic books of this kind, explicitly rejecting manipulative PUA theory and stressing candor and respect; its limitation lies in an overly optimistic estimate of approach success rates and some still-subjective generalizations about female psychology.
